Finding Balance ..What does this even mean? Balance and what it means to find balance in one’s life is a subjective experience but I’d like to share my tips on how to find it.
Being a Londoner, living in the hustle and bustle of the city makes it hard to keep on track with important things, such as: personal relationships and your own mental health. Trying to keep up with the fast-paced nature of London is difficult as student, as someone who is employed or self-employed etc. It can be an exhausting – and lonely – experience and this ultimately leads to us often mistakenly thinking that we need something – or someone – in our lives to fill that missing piece of the puzzle we call “Life”.
But that’s not completely true.
Understanding how the war between need vs want affects your state of wellbeing, and how you go through your life, will help the way in which you engage in relationships and other daily tasks. I, myself have reflected on the things that I thought mattered in my life and realised the things that didn’t carry much weight, were the things that I attributed with need. We as a society always seem to think things are a necessity – having the latest trainers to complete the look or having that popular designer bag. But what we need is to find balance and remain centred.
So what does balance look like?
- In the words of our sister Solange, Do Nothing Without Intention . Balance comes with reflecting on whether what you are doing serves a greater purpose in your life. For example, eating serves the importance of sustenance. Exercise, be it walking, taking the stairs instead of the lift or doing Ass-to-Grass squats at the gym, serves the purpose of maintaining your health, fitness and mental wellbeing. We need to move away from doing things for the sake of it and doing with purpose.
- Sometimes, No. It is imperative that we move away from people-pleasing and actually saying “No” when we mean “No”, and “Yes” when we mean “Yes”. It is not, and should never be, by force sis.
- Comparison is the thief of joy. I repeat, Comparison is the THIEF of JOY. Everybody’s journey is different, everyone is at a different place in that journey and so, it is important to focus on your own journey and not compare yourself to others. This sort of comparison often leaves us feeling unfulfilled and unaccomplished.
But why? Does it really matter? What purpose does it serve? I’m all for looking nice but at what cost?
I think we need to move towards being more comfortable with ourselves, our true selves. The true us, instead of hiding behind material things, and other people’s opinions. Now, don’t get me wrong, wanting a new bag or new shoes is not an issue. It’s about not being being consumed by the desire to have material things, and staying balanced.
Don’t ever think that you need something material to feel whole. Concentrate on being the greatest you and working on your inner self. It is the most important, and often fragile, part of who we are.